“In San Francisco last year, a man stabbed a woman in the face and arm after she didn’t respond positively to his sexually harassing her on the street.
In Bradenton, Fla., a man shot a high school senior to death after she and her friends refused to perform oral sex at his request.
In Chicago, a scared 15-year-old was hit by a car and died after she tried escaping from harassers on a bus.
Again, in Chicago, a man grabbed a 19-year-old walking on a public thoroughfare, pulled her onto a gangway and assaulted her.
In Savannah, Georgia, a woman was walking alone at night and three men approached her. She ignored them, but they pushed her to the ground and sexually assaulted her.
In Manhattan, a 29-year-old pregnant woman was killed when men catcalling from a van drove onto the sidewalk and hit her and her friend.
Last week, a runner in California — a woman — was stopped and asked, by a strange man in a car, if she wanted a ride. When she declined he ran her over twice.
And, lest we forget, we’re one big happy planet family here and this exact same dynamic happens the world over in varying degrees and to varying effect. Women operating freely and independently in public is a relatively recent historical development, a shift in social order. Street harassment acts like a thermidor.
What happened to this girl in Florida should make everyone pause. If he did what he’d done in India, people here might be inclined to say, “What a horrible place that is for women.” (Which is true.) Instead, what we say is, “He’s a lunatic,” or, better still, “What was she doing for him to think he could stop and offer her money for sex?” While this man is dangerous, he’s probably not mentally ill. If he is, then so are the millions of other men that feel entitled to assault and brutalize children and women and “othered” people every day.
We are failing to treat this crisis with the urgency and mobilization of resources it needs, because as a Commonwealth, we are still not seeing this tragic epidemic for what it truly is. Addiction is a public health issue, but still carries the stigma of many of our outdated prejudices. Too many of us still view addiction as a character flaw, or a moral failing, or a failure that stems from poor parenting or poor values. These old attitudes borne over generations die hard, and exhibit themselves in subtle but obstructive ways. Because addiction is a health issue, it is just as if someone has diabetes, heart disease or suffers from cancer. The stigma of addiction traps us in antiquated thinking and prejudice, preventing us from radically changing our approach to prevent further destruction.
Our “old way” of thinking about addiction is costing us too much.
Addiction is a public health issue, but still carries all the stigma of many of our outdated prejudices.
There are a lot of reasons why I love my job, but being able to work in the field of substance abuse/addiction is exactly where I need and want to be.
I don’t know what it is today, but I cannot shake the feeling of incompetence. With everything - why don’t I have a better apartment, why do I have no much debt, why am I sucking at work, my boss hates me, she probably wishes my coworker wasn’t leaving in may or she would fire me, everything is wrong wrong wrong.
I guess I have these bad brain days from time to time - but this one just seems the lowest. There are a million things I could whine about, but I don’t even want to do that.
This is a no good awful brain day. And that is all.
This is a vacation from work, as in multiple days off in a row using “vacation time”. I will not be anywhere near a beach or anything tropical.
There will be lots of long runs in the afternoons (!!), drinking with one of my best friends in the miserable great state of RI, a bridal shower and bachelorette party for a marriage I don’t totally believe in, and celebrating the birth of my sissy giirrrrll
Today is my last day in the office until Monday which means equal part sitting on Tumblr, getting emails out, and ignoring every new email that comes in
I didn’t go to the gym last night - and wont have time tonight and this is making me irrationally flabby and angry. (when did I become this person?!)
A bad bad thing happened to me this weekend, and as much as I don’t want to admit it K was the only person who was able to calm me down and talk me through it. I guess you can be just friends with an ex?
MY SISTER’S BIRTHDAY IS TOMORROW and I get to spend the whole day being lazy and just love on her because, lets face it - she is the greatest sissy around.
After tonight I will have no football and no college basketball - I REALLY NEED FOOTBALL back
I could write more things, but I really just need to charge through today and leave this building and not come back until the 14th!
*I cannot spell brain without spelling Brian first and realizing that is, in fact, not the word I want.
So today I my last day in the office before a three day weekend - and obviously it includes: two senior management meetings, on offsite visit, finishing three monthly reports (that no one reads), and working on a grant that is due on 4/25.
Latte me strength. But I cannot wait for sister Friday and a long weekend to celebrate my dad’s birthday. WOO